I don't like this topic, but everything always seems to lead back to this topic. And again I feel myself needing to discuss it.
This post is kind of a rant, so if you don't want to read it, I totally understand.
I know it was a few days ago now, but I can't let it go.
It's not emails I'm discussing this time. No, I want to talk about a certain comment (two, actually) that appeared on one of my negative reviews. It was rude, patronizing, and way out of line. I'm not going to point this person out, but they know who they are. Some of you may, too, if you saw me on twitter earlier this week ranting.
I am okay with people not liking my reviews. I am okay with people telling me that they disagree with me and why. What I am not freaking okay with is when someone tells me that my review is "hateful," "cruel," and "a lot like bullying." This in addition with "asking" me to take it down.
(I normally try not to swear on my blog, but I'm going to here, so I apologize.)
If you don't like my reviews, then get the fuck off my blog. I don't need you, I don't need your hate, and I don't want to deal with it or you. If you're going to react that way to my negative reviews, then why are you even reading them?
I work hard on my reviews, and I never attack the author personally. But if I don't like a book, then I am going to tear it apart. That's how it is. I always promise complete honesty in my reviews. If you don't like it, leave. Negative reviews aren't everyone's thing. I like reading them for books I loved, personally. It helps me see things I might not have noticed before. But some people don't like seeing things they love insulted. Which is understandable.
I have written many a glowing review in my book blogging career, and I will write many more. In fact, I rarely write negative reviews because I prefer recommending books to saying why a certain book shouldn't be read. But if a book deserves a negative review, then that is exactly what it is going to get.
And honestly? Who likes every book? No one. In fact, I tend to doubt the credibility of bloggers who give out nothing but positive reviews, and I'm not the only one. Oh, sure, there probably are perfectly legitimate bloggers that only write positive reviews. But there are exceptions to every rule.
This person did make a second comment after some people (bless you, I love you all) who spoke up on my behalf, but it honestly wasn't much better than the first. It just came across the wrong way and perhaps some of that was residue from the first comment.
Because yes, I'm angry about it now. But my first reaction? Well, that was hurt. Hate hurts, people. So why do it?
The thing is, I feel like this commenter is a perfectly nice person too. I think sometimes we say things online that we maybe cannot take back. It doesn't excuse what they did, but if they're reading this, I just want them to know.
So please, next time you think about criticizing someone or their work, just take a few seconds to think. It is perfectly okay to criticize, but delivery is vital. Think of your words, because you can't take them back. This is the internet, people. Even if you delete a comment once it has been posted, it is already in their email. I don't want to sound like an annoying, walking cliché, but just think before you say anything. Please.
I wish hate didn't exist, but it does. Still, let's all try to be more aware.
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