So, today's topic: hate mail. I usually am very good about keeping the language on my blog relatively clean, but there will be swearing in this particular post, because this is not a topic I can discuss otherwise.
If I keep discussing topics like this, I'm going to have to make a banner or something. Make it an official feature.
I am so fucking sick and tired of assholes being negative online. I know that there is absolutely nothing I can do about it, but that does not make it okay on any level, ever. And no matter what, there's nothing you can do. I put my contact info out there, and people are going to abuse it. My email is available without looking too hard, and while I do have a contact form it isn't that hard to type a fake email address.
What I really don't understand is the why. It's not like I think I'm some untouchable do-gooder or something, but I don't suck as a person either. I try to be nice to everyone, and withdraw when I'm in one of those moods where you can't be. But it's like you can't make some people happy.
To spare you the language, I won't go into all the gory detail, but let's just say these emails often imply that I am a loose woman, which doesn't even make any sense. One, if I am, that is none of their fucking business. Two, I have a steady boyfriend who I don't flaunt but do mention occasionally. Three, calling me a slut isn't even that insulting but it seems so petty. I mean, jeez. Can't these hate mails at least be relevant to my blog or something? Who cares if I'm a slut? I'm not, but that's beside the point.
Now, it's not like I receive a ton of these (maybe two/four a month), but quantity isn't important here. It shouldn't be fucking happening at all. Some people are honestly just horrible people and there is no way around that. There's no way I'm the only person receiving these types of abusive emails. I've long since stopped taking them to heart, and now I delete them without reading them. It doesn't mean that some part of me isn't affected.
And it's not just myself I want to speak out for. I've mostly gotten past the point where these hateful emails truly affect me, but that doesn't mean it's like that for everyone. And at some point, there could be permanent consequences. And that makes me so, so sad.
While I don't necessarily expect everyone to do something proactive about this, I would appreciate it if you would at least take a few moments to think about this. We can't predict the outcomes of everything and despite the classic saying words can hurt. They can hurt like hell.
I'll leave you with that.
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